How to Stop Being a Victim of Victimhood

With the election approaching, it’s time to stop blaming victims for their own suffering.

When the first victim of sexual assault is not able to say anything to the police, it is easy to blame them.

When you do not have the power to stop sexual assault, it becomes a zero-sum game.

The best solution is for everyone to speak up.

There are several ways to do this, which can be beneficial for everyone.


Ask for help.

This is a great time to ask for help for yourself.

Take a look at the resources below and make a list of the things you need to do. 2.

Ask the perpetrator if you can talk to him.

The perpetrator is often very uncomfortable and does not want to talk to anyone.

Ask him or her to get on the phone and talk to someone else.

If he or she does not have a phone, call the police.

If the perpetrator does not respond, ask the victim to contact the police or call 911.

If you have not done this already, ask your friends, family, and coworkers to help.


Seek help for the victim.

Some people are able to avoid this altogether by contacting their local Rape Crisis Center, but if not, it may be worth contacting them.

If there is a crisis center in your area, make a note of where they are located and call to ask if you could speak with someone there.


Call the perpetrator directly.

If your partner has not reported the crime to the authorities yet, it might be best to call the perpetrator.

He or she may be able to offer assistance.


Report the crime.

If possible, report the crime online.

There is a high chance that the perpetrator will not be able or willing to respond to you.

If they refuse to respond, call 911 and file a police report.

If a person refuses to cooperate, file a complaint with the police and have them investigate.


Contact your local police department.

This may not be a good time to do so, as there is an ongoing investigation.

You can also contact the local prosecutor.


Get a lawyer.

A lawyer can help you with filing a lawsuit against the perpetrator for what you believe was rape or sexual assault.


Keep your job.

There may be a lot of anger and resentment that you have for the perpetrator, and you can still find a job.

If so, stay positive and be thankful for the opportunity to do something for the victims.

If not, find another job that will give you the stability to make ends meet.


Talk to your children.

If it is important to you to tell your children about what happened, it would be best if you do this right away.

If, however, you cannot talk to them or you are afraid of repercussions, find someone to talk with.


Get help from your local Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network (RAINN).

If you or someone you know is sexually assaulted, they may be interested in talking to someone who can help them.

You may find an RAINN counselor online at