The rise of self-esteem killers is all about being loved by others

Posted October 05, 2018 18:27:25 Self-esteem killer, a.k.a. narcissist, has been described as a type of person who has a strong, obsessive desire to be loved and accepted.

Key points:A new study suggests self-worth killers are not just out of controlPeople who are narcissistic and seek to dominate others are more likely to seek to hurt, hurt others, and cause harmWhen narcissists seek to manipulate others, they often seek to control others’ behaviour and make them feel powerless to stop it.

A new research paper by Dr. Michael Siegel of The Ohio State University, published in the journal Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, suggests narcissists have evolved a very complex system to manipulate and control others, leading them to be self-harming.

“Self-hatred and narcissism are two very different phenomena,” Dr. Siegel said.

Dr. Sauer and his colleagues examined data from the National Longitudinal Study of Adolescent Health, and compared the self-reported behaviour of 4,890 participants who were narcissistic and 3,972 who were not.”

They have the drive to be admired, the desire to manipulate, and the ability to take control of others.”

Dr. Sauer and his colleagues examined data from the National Longitudinal Study of Adolescent Health, and compared the self-reported behaviour of 4,890 participants who were narcissistic and 3,972 who were not.

Participants were classified as narcissists or not, and had their self-reports collected using a self-report instrument called the NEO Personality Inventory.

Narcissists who reported that they were self-haters were more likely than those who did not to report self-harm, and those who reported self-hate were more than twice as likely to report such behaviour.

Dr. Michael says this is not surprising, given the prevalence of narcissistic behaviours in society.

“There are more people who self-harmed, and were victims of physical violence,” he said.

Dr Siegel and his co-authors say their findings also show that narcissists are not always the victims of abuse or neglect.

“When we ask people if they’re abused or neglected, there’s a big difference between ‘yes’ and ‘no’,” he said, “and that suggests to us that they’re often being controlled.”

Narcotics are often a precursor to more severe behaviourNarcotic personality disorder is one of the most common forms of self harm in Australia.

“They’re the person who’s self-medicates to get what they want,” Dr Siegel explained.

“And then they feel like they can do whatever they want because they’re being so loved by someone.”

Dr Sauer says people who are self-loving may seek to make other people feel like their pain is not worth it.

“The narcissist may be seeking to manipulate other people to feel better,” he explained.

Dr Michael says there is evidence that narcissistic individuals may seek control over others and that they may act out their aggression towards others when they feel they are being oppressed.

“People who have a narcissistic personality may be the kind of person that, when they see that they are powerless to resist, they take action,” he says.

Dr Mike Siegel says that when narcissists use other people’s pain to make themselves feel better, they’re in danger of causing harm.

“Narcisists often use other peoples pain to their advantage,” he told, “so that when they get hurt they can say, ‘I didn’t mean to do that.

I should have been nicer.'”

Dr Michael Sauer’s findings are consistent with the theory that narcissism is not just an issue of a selfless individual who wants to be respected, but an issue that is often associated with people who abuse, neglect or victimise others.

“If you want to be liked by others, you’re going to want to control other people,” Dr Michael Sacher said.

“That’s what narcissists do.”

Numerous studies have shown that people with narcissistic personality disorder are more prone to self-injury and self-mutilation, including self-poisoning, self-inflicted injury and poisoning, Dr Sauer said.

He says there are signs that narcissist behaviour can be harmful to people.

“But there’s also evidence that it’s a marker of health problems, particularly if it involves an underlying mental health disorder,” Dr Rana Choudhury, a professor of psychology at The University of Sydney, said.

She says narcissists often hide behind other narcissistic behaviours.

“It’s not surprising that people who identify as narcissist or self-centered are more often self-destructive, suicidal and self inflicted,” Dr Choudy said.

However, Dr Chuddury says the research does not support the idea that narcissistically self-focused individuals are more dangerous than those with a narcissistic temperament.

“This is a very difficult research question to answer because the people who have narcissistic traits tend to be less stable and less stable individuals, so there’s more risk