By James Cuthbert and Joanne McKeon A friend has suggested they should be more self-confident and less stressed.
The article has been published in the British Journal of Psychology.
The two friends, who are both psychology graduates, were talking about their own personal struggles with self esteem.
It was the first time they’d discussed their feelings.
“It’s a common theme, but I’m always surprised at how much you think it’s just something you need to do, or you can just pick up and do it, or something to help you feel good,” the friend said.
The two had a bit of a debate about how to tackle self esteem and anxiety. “
You just have to do it and do well with it.”
The two had a bit of a debate about how to tackle self esteem and anxiety.
The friend said he felt anxious, self-conscious, and insecure.
“But we talked about the different ways of coping and it dawned on me that the key thing to having self esteem is not getting anxious,” he said.
But the friend also suggested they try to look at themselves in the mirror, and “find what you’re good at”.
“If you want to feel good about yourself, that’s the only thing you have to look to,” he told them.
“Find what you can do to help yourself.”
The friend suggested he should try to focus on what he does well, rather than worrying about what others think.
The friends’ conversation then led to a discussion about whether they should make it their goal to “make yourself better” or just to live their lives the way they want.
“The idea that we can change ourselves and our environment is ridiculous,” the source said.
The source, who wished to remain anonymous, told the paper the idea that it was only good for self esteem to be focused on what you do well was “not right”.
The source said that he was not looking to become a psychologist or a psychiatrist, but rather to improve his own self esteem through “self-reflection”.
But it was the idea of self-improvement that was the source of the friend’s anxiety.
“When you look at yourself in the eye and see how you’re feeling, how you think about things, and how you do things, you can see you’re improving yourself,” the friendship said.
He said he found it difficult to be confident in his own abilities and ability to achieve, and that his own confidence was “very low”.
The friend also said he wanted to get to a point where he “could stand in front of a mirror and feel confident”.
“I know you can and should be confident, but we’ve been having these feelings, and the only way we can overcome it is to talk to someone,” he added.
“We’ve all had moments of feeling insecure and then the person just gets on top of you and says, ‘You’re not really good enough’.” The source suggested they talk about this idea of “self confidence” in their therapy sessions and talk about how they would like to be better themselves.
The couple, who both worked as teachers in secondary schools, met at a psychology class.
He was interested in how to “learn to be happy” and “make things happen in life”, while she was interested to see if “she was in some way better than me”.
The couple said the conversation about self esteem in therapy helped them understand their own strengths and weaknesses.
“There was a moment where we both had these moments of being in that self-doubt that we couldn’t see the light at the end of the tunnel,” the other source said, “and we said to each other, ‘This is where we want to go.
We need to get better.'”
The source also said they talked about how much it hurt to feel insecure and how they struggled with self-esteem.
“At first we thought, ‘Oh, I’m really insecure, I’ve got anxiety’,” he said, but eventually “we realised that it’s really not that bad”.
“There are lots of ways you can feel insecure about yourself.
We didn’t want to do that and that’s why we were talking to eachother about it,” he continued.
“This is why I wanted to do this research, because I think people are really feeling insecure.”
They also talked about whether it was possible to learn to be more confident, and whether there were certain “rules” they should stick to to get there.
The pair decided to share their experience with others.
“That was the hardest thing about this, because it was our first time talking to others about it, and we’ve talked to so many people before,” the second source said of the meeting.
“So we were hoping that people might understand that this is not something that can be learned by just sitting there, but that people have to actually listen and try and find ways to be positive.”
The source told the study that the advice they gave each other in their session was “helpful, but not everything is going to be