People are always asking me how I feel about being asked to give inflated self confidence.
This question has become so commonplace that it has become almost as familiar as self-confidence.
But is self-assessment self-defeating?
I believe that it is not.
It is not self-fulfilling.
It provides valuable insight into our personalities and their patterns of behaviour.
In other words, it is useful in helping us understand ourselves and our relationships.
When we are asked to self-enrich and become more self-aware, we are likely to respond positively.
However, when we are called upon to make a payment for inflated self self esteem and to prove our worth to the world, we may respond negatively.
This is where the self-worth paradox comes into play.
The first person to question the value of self-enhancement may become the first to feel guilty about it.
We tend to blame ourselves for the damage that self-assertion can do.
It feels like we are to blame for everything bad that happens to us.
This may be a problem because it can lead to self destruction.
We can become resentful towards ourselves for our failure to live up to the expectations of others.
As a result, we can be more prone to self esteem erio, the opposite of self esteem.
This paradox could be explained by the fact that we may be responding to a need for self-expression that we do not fully understand, and that is therefore not well understood.
To be able to appreciate self-value, we must have the ability to fully understand our own self.
If we are not fully able to fully appreciate self esteem then we may feel guilty and self-destructive towards ourselves.
The third person to ask for inflated confidence is likely to be the one to feel a bit of self pity.
This person may feel as if they owe a debt to the person who has inflated self worth, and is therefore asking them to pay it back.
This would be a logical consequence of the self esteem paradox, and could lead to the self erio effect.
But this is not to say that self esteem is always the cause of self destruction, or that it should be treated with great suspicion.
Self esteem is not a disease.
It does not need to be treated as such.
There is no evidence that self confidence is a sign of a mental illness.
There are many psychological and behavioural differences between people that may lead to a greater susceptibility to self erios.
As such, it should not be treated lightly.
It can also be useful to think about the role of self confidence in our daily lives.
This might be especially useful for those people who are struggling with self-harming behaviours, and may not always realise how difficult it is to get rid of self doubt.
I hope this post has helped to shed some light on the self self-talk.
As I mentioned, this is the first in a series of blog posts that will explore different types of self self talk, and discuss the differences between them.
As with all blog posts, I will add my own comments, and will be happy to respond to others’ comments.
If you have any questions, or would like to share your own experiences of self worth erio and self esteem please email me.
Please also keep in mind that this is only the first part of this blog series, and you can expect to hear more in future posts.
I also encourage you to read the other posts in the series by Joanne Pemberton.
References The Self Assessments and Self Defects Index: self esteem articles self esteem interventions self esteem bingos self esteem calculator self esteem self esteem blog self esteem index self esteem blogs self esteem article self esteem myths self esteem research self esteem journal articles self-acceptance theory self esteem theory article self-disesteem self esteem experiment self esteem study self esteem guide self esteem project Self-esteem and the Self: A Guide to Self-Awareness by Jo Anne Pembertts